An 8 Step Guide to Turn a Shared Fantasy Into Reality

So you and your partner have just admitted a fantasy that’s been living rent-free in your heads. Maybe it slipped out during a round of Lust Between Us, or maybe it has been simmering for years and finally made its debut over wine and nervous laughter. Either way, you are both curious. Curiosity is hot, but translating fantasy into reality? That is where most couples get stuck. Here’s your unapologetically playful, research-backed, slightly naughty guide to actually doing the thing without it turning awkward.

Step 1: Shrink the Fantasy

In your head, fantasies play out like full-length movies. In real life, they work better as short clips. If the fantasy is public teasing, you don’t need to dive straight into exhibitionist territory. Instead, start smaller, like whispering something dirty in your partner’s ear at dinner or daring them to go commando on your next date night. The point is to capture the thrill without overwhelming yourselves or accidentally starring in the wrong kind of reality show.

Step 2: Design Your Red-Light Green-Light System

Boundaries don't have to be boring. Before you act out a fantasy, set a playful system of signals that tell your partner what is working and what is not. Green means keep going, yellow means slow down or tweak it, and red means stop. This takes the pressure off guessing and turns consent into a private language that feels sexy instead of stiff. Couples who create these systems often find their experiences run smoother and end hotter because nobody is left second-guessing.

Step 3: Build Anticipation

Anticipation is one of the most powerful arousal boosters. The fun should start long before anyone touches the bed. Tease each other with texts throughout the day, slip a Lust Between Us card into your partner’s pocket as a hint of what’s coming, or invent a silly dinner rule like “having to text each other one dirty thought between every course.” Foreplay doesn't begin in the bedroom. It begins the moment you decide you are going to play.

Step 4: Create the Scene

You don't need velvet ropes or a fifty-item shopping spree to set the mood. All you really need is to tweak the environment just enough to feel different. Try moving the action to another room, throwing on a new playlist, or switching the rules for the night, like keeping the lights off during round one or leaving clothes on until round two. The novelty tricks your brain into registering the moment as fresh and exciting, which is exactly what makes it memorable.

Step 5: Make It a Game, Not a Test

The fastest way to ruin the night is to treat your fantasy like a final exam. If you start worrying about whether you performed it “right,” you'll both check out. Instead, think of it as a game. Give each other time limits, trade control back and forth, or draw cards from the Lust Between Us deck to keep things unpredictable. When you frame it as play, mistakes become part of the laughter, and the night stays light rather than fragile.

Step 6: Play With Props

Props can be as simple as scarves, ice cubes, or lipstick. You don’t need to start with complicated harnesses and rope rigs that require a PhD in knot-tying. In fact, limiting yourselves to just one or two props keeps things focused and fun. Use the scarf as a blindfold, trace ice down your partner’s skin, or mark a secret spot with lipstick to be kissed later. These little additions shift your usual script just enough to create a completely new experience.

Step 7: Debrief Naked

After the scene, talk about it. Not as a report card, but as a playful highlights reel. Ask each other what part you loved, what could be tweaked, and what you might want to try next time. These conversations don't have to feel clinical. They can be flirtatious, messy, and even funny. Science shows that couples who talk about their sex lives openly tend to be more satisfied, but you don’t need a lab coat to prove that nachos in bed while laughing about what just happened is one of the sexiest forms of aftercare.

Step 8: Iterate, Don’t Escalate

When curiosity strikes, the temptation is to push for bigger, wilder, more outrageous fantasies right away. Resist that urge. Instead, add just one new ingredient at a time. Try a different location, switch who takes the lead, or invent a new “rule” for the night. This slow build keeps the spark alive much longer than trying to stage a blockbuster on night one. Couples who stretch novelty out in small doses find that they keep coming back for more, and the confidence you build in each step carries into the next.

Why This Works

These steps work because they combine science with play. Shrinking a fantasy makes it less intimidating. Consent signals reduce risk and build trust. Anticipation and novelty trick your brain into heightened arousal. Debriefing keeps communication sexy instead of clinical. And by adding new layers slowly, you create an endless runway of shared adventure. This isn’t about staging porn in your living room. It’s about turning curiosity into connection, again and again.

Ready to Play?

Your fantasies don't belong on the shelf. Pull out your Lust Between Us deck, let the cards reveal the scenario, and take the first small step. You don't need a perfect script. You just need to try. Curiosity has never looked this good on you.